Daily Archives: March 25, 2014

People dont want advice, they just want someone to listen

Want to Help Someone?
http://youtu.be/chXsLtHqfdM

Many a times, we forget to DISCERN.
It is too easy to be so QUICK in our thinking and QUICK TO RESPOND, and QUICK TO ANGER!
We must speak SOFT, and SLOW to RESPOND, and SLOW TO ANGER.

Sometimes People just don’t want advice, we just want someone to understand us and listen.

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Identification #3: Who is the ONE

there are girls who like you.
there are girls who are interested in you.
there are girls who are attracted to you.
there are girls who think you are attractive.
and then there are girls who actually care about you. 

how to Identify who is actually the ONE for you?
easy. 
when she puts up with you of all your bs over and over and over and over, when she still continues to be KIND & ENCOURAGER to you even in a number of times you’ve been such a jackass & jerk towards her, when she pursues you because of who you are in the inside and not by what some “title” or “organization” or “higher ranks” say that you’re qualified, and not anything to do with security measure! 

what is security measure?
when a woman puts out a challenge test for you in order to prove security.
example:
man: hey i would like to date you.
woman: i will only date if you marry me. 

KEY POINTS TO BE A MAN OF GOD

1.) the bible is my navigation. 
2.) silence is my friend.
3.) the holy spirit is my gps.
4.) pain, stress, struggle is an illusion.
5.) anxious, nervous, emotions, fear, quick tongue are tricks of the enemy.
6.) the Lord is guidance. 
7.) pride destroys man. 
8.) service is maturity.
9.) love heals & liberates. 
10.) be still, sober, clean the temple, think clear, empty your mind. 
11.) not perceive but receive! 
12.) submit to authority is humility
13.) marriage is to sacrifice your life to create a life for your wife. do not marry for your own success & desires, but marry her for what she wants and her needs. think of her before yourself. 
14.) family is all you have left that reminds you of your beginning. you can pick your friends, but you cant pick family. appreciate & cherish every minute with them. blood is thicker than water. 
15.) call thyself mature, you stay immature. call thyself immature, you actually mature. 
16.) acknowledging your wrongs actually make you right.// accepting defeat is victory. 
17.) boys complain, men stay quiet.
18.) cowards point fingers. champions fail every day but never give up. 
19.) there are so many options and diff routes but in the end, its all about what you want. if you know what you’re worth, then go out there and get what you’re worth. if you know how God sees you, then go out there and show people how God sees you as. 
20.) your heart is your identity. its where your heart lies that speak your identity. 
21.) life is too short to hold grudges.
22.) never be black & white. 
too focus on the future will motivate but forgetful to appreciate what’s in front of you. too much focus on the present will help appreciate time now yet no motivation for tomorrow. dwelling on the past destroys the present, yet the past is your identity.

We cant help others, if we haven’t helped ourselves first.

 

We cant help others, if we haven’t helped ourselves first.

Yes that is obviously true. However there are 2 ways to help ourselves.

1.)    Help myself first, before I help others.
OR

2.)   By helping others first, it will help myself too.

What do I mean by #2 way?
It’s called to SERVE.

By not thinking of ourselves, not being selfish, through serving others on a consistent basis, to put people first before our own needs, it will help us grow.

However, You cant be black and white about this neither.
It’s best to use both options to help yourself.

If you do #2, you will learn how to be mature and patient. But if you don’t take anytime for yourself to Discern, then you wont be able to know what steps do you need to take to pursue that goal.

If you do #1, you will know how to help yourself, but you will also live in pride and be afraid to make commitments and failure, because you’re so stuck on trying to become PERFECT.

http://youtu.be/wzhzkKccBi8

@1:30-2:25
There is no such thing as waiting for the “PERFECT” moment.
Being PERFECT does not EXIST.
There is no reason to try and figure out everything on your own, there is no reason to try and figure out the “perfect” plan to get there.
Everything will start happening the way you wanted it to, IF you first make that STEP to get there!
It’s pointless to wait and think about which route is the “perfect” way to do it, because the route is not at all “perfect”!
The main reason why we try to plan the “perfect” route is because we are SCARED of FAILURE.
It’s better to start now, because you will face failure anyways.
If we don’t face failure or rejection, then we won’t be able to LEARN anything from it and if we don’t learn anything, then we wont be able to GROW and become the future person we want to be. We will never learn how to become successful in life if we don’t meet FAILURE.
WE DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT TO GET WHAT WE WANT IN LIFE.
Being Perfect is a LIE & an ILLUSION.

 

Identifications #2: QUIT vs WIN

http://youtu.be/8QlvQC4MXxs

@2:55

No one will understand what you’re going through. You will always be misunderstood. No one will understand what pain or suffering you are going through.
No one! Only You know! Only you understand it.

But that doesn’t give you the hall pass to stay in that mentality forever.
Do something about it!
If you know what your worth then Go get out there if you know what your worth!
In order for you to get out that hardship, you gotta take that step to get there!
FACT IS: You will fail, you will experience more pain, you will fall hard, you will suffer!
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But the moment you quit, the moment you give up, the moment you start pointing fingers, the moment you start pointing faults at one another, the moment you start blaming other people or events or things because you don’t wanna be where you wanna be, the moment you start dwelling on the past and you make that as a product of your cause in the present, the moment you start complaining, The moment you say you cant do it.
You will not get to where you wanna be, You will not get to where you wanna live in your dream and your vision what you’ve always envisioned or day dreamed about.
CANT is NOT an option!
It’s called ENDURING.
It takes FAITH, COMMITMENT, DISCIPLINE, PERSEVERACE!

You have to BELIEVE in yourself!
The moment you start believing in what other people say, the moment you start listening to what other people say you CANT do.
You will never accomplish your goals!

It’s hard. I know it! Life is HARD.
If life was easy, we wouldn’t stay motivated to pursue our dreams, we’d take things for granted and live in laziness.
To be Frank, if you live in negativity,
It’s either 3 reasons:
1.) Your pride has consumed you.
2.) You stopped believing in yourself.
3.) You’re immature and you continue to stay in immaturity.

It’s about THINKING POSITIVE, THINKING OPTIMISTIC.
Always keep your head up.
FEAR is an ILLUSION.
PAIN is an ILLUSION.
Fear and Pain is a product of the enemy to make you QUIT.
Don’t listen to the enemy, the enemy is a sore loser.

“Nothing is as bad as it is”-Alex Lim (US Marine Corps Officer)

It’s our emotions & imagination that makes everything seem that bad.
It’s all an ILLUSION. It’s a trick of the enemy. The enemy is the master of tricks.
But the moment we fall for his tricks, that’s the moment where we will give up.

You gotta DISCERN. You gotta take a PAUSE for a moment and IDENTIFY and ASSESS and MEDITATE and THINK about your obstacles and why are you being affected by the negative energy.
STAY AWARE of your surroundings.
If your environment is leading into a destructive lifestyle.
If the people you associate with is influencing yourself to become negative, to become miserable, to become depressed, to be a complainer, to argue, to point fingers, to give up.
Then you gotta STOP seeing them. You gotta ESCAPE that atmosphere and put yourself in the GOOD ATMOSPHERE. You gotta put a HALT in your negative clique, and surround yourself with good people. People you know that will become a good influence, people you know that will help you, people you know who will motivate you, people you know who will encourage you, people you know who will enable positivity.

If you feel bad for leaving your old friends to find better friends. That’s just part of the method to become positive.
In life you will end friendships and start new ones.
That’s just a part of life.
But it’s all about making that DECISION! For  you and your future!
Do you still want to continue being the negative person you are? Do you still want to live in that box forever for the rest of your life? Do you still want to keep pointing fingers, dwelling on the past, complaining, arguing, fighting, live in drama bullshit?
Its up to you!
This is for YOU! Your life DEPENDS on it!
DECIDE where you wanna be.

 

 

if you still continue to live in what you think no one understands you.
Then that just means that is an ENABLER to live in IMMATURITY.
and you will LACK SELF CONTROL.
Part of being a MAN & a SOLDIER IN CHRIST is having SELF CONTROL, MATURITY.

Maturity & Self Control only exists when HUMILITY becomes the KEY TOOL.

It’s great to stay motivated, but the moment you let your PRIDE consume you, you become a product of what the enemy wants you to be.

King David & Solomon were both thinking of committing suicide, because of all the hardships they went through. They were sick and tired of all the pain, and we’re going to give into quitting.
Jonah was afraid, He was afraid to take a step, he was afraid to make a decision.
Joseph lived life in PRISON. But do you think he gave up?
Don’t think you are the only one who is exhausted of how much suffering you’re going through and you want to give up.

Many people have gone through the turmoil many centuries ago.

http://youtu.be/1-pUxK-Yywc

http://youtu.be/H3bQwkABnbs

Look at these guys. They have NO LIMBS. But do you think that makes an excuse for them to give up?
Do you think because of their disability they have the right to point fingers, dwell on the past, complain, and quit?
Be grateful that you actually HAVE LIMBS.

Here’s a Joseph motivational advice by Pastor Bill Johnson Bethel sermons.
Joseph spent his life in prison, which eventually he spent his life in a palace from the Egyptians.
If you put a person with a palace mentality inside a prison, he will live in a palace.
But if you put a person with a prison mentality inside a palace, he will make his environment as a prison.
Here’s a testimony from me.
There have been many a times, where I thought about killing myself, because I wasn’t living my dreams, because I was miserable, because I hated how hard life was.
Then I prayed about it, What God told me is that “LIFE IS A GIFT.
You only live once.”
Be grateful that you’re still alive.
Most people out there die within the next day, Appreciate the fact that you’re still on earth.

http://xposethereal.com/6-famous-failures-and-what-has-become-of-them.html

You think Michael Jackson or Michael Jordan became who they are instantly?
No. They failed everyday, They were rejected all the time. But they didn’t become who they are today if they didnt endure through all the battling they had to go through to make it in life.

http://youtu.be/FNXwKGZHmDc

Ashton Kutcher talks about How you gotta start small, take one step at a time, take the smallest steps in order to pursue you BIG dream.
and of all the crap he had to go through in his first small steps, such as working for low end jobs like sweeping the floor, do you think he complained about it?
No. He kept on pursuing his goal.

it is so easy to stay negative, be miserable, blame people, become annoyed, point fingers, point faults at each other, argue, provoke, dwell on the past, condescend, and especially complain.

you really gotta take a pause for a moment and be aware of how you’re acting as well with your mentality on life.
if you surround yourself with negative people or people who keep complaining or a destructive lifestyle that’s making no efforts of trying to stay positive, then obviously it will have a bad influence on your attitude on life & destroy your soul, as well.
you really gotta leave that kind of environment, it just aint good for you.
ya just gotta appreciate the little things in life of whats right in front of ya.

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http://youtu.be/ZOy0YgUDwDg

@6:44
Where you are is TEMPORARY. You will not be there for the rest of your life!

@7:50-8:30
People will CRITICIZE you constantly! But the minute you start listening to them, you will LOSE.
It’s important to listen to your heart, it’s not suggested, but it’s also good to listen to other’s discernment to take into consideration.

@8:30-8:38
To be HAPPY:
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@8:38-8:55
FAITH is in yourself. But Faith cannot just be believed in yourself, but inspired through Jesus. Walking faithfully with God helps RESTORE FAITH in yourself.
We will not know our true calling in life if God isn’t there to make us see.

No one is going to help you get to where you wanna be! You gotta do that yourself!
And it takes FAITH to get there!

 

@10:00
TRY AGAIN
http://youtu.be/WjnbozivsEo

@00:43
If you don’t SUCCEED, DUST YOURSELF OFF, and TRY AGAIN.

 

 

 

http://youtu.be/wzhzkKccBi8

@00:45
You gotta take SMALL BABY STEPS first!

THINK BIG, DREAM BIG, BUT START SMALL!

@1:12
The biggest enemy is yourself.
“If there is no enemy within yourself, the enemy outside can do us no harm”-African Proverb.

@1:30-2:25
There is no such thing as waiting for the “PERFECT” moment.
Being PERFECT does not EXIST.
There is no reason to try and figure out everything on your own, there is no reason to try and figure out the “perfect” plan to get there.
Everything will start happening the way you wanted it to, IF you first make that STEP to get there!
It’s pointless to wait and think about which route is the “perfect” way to do it, because the route is not at all “perfect”!
The main reason why we try to plan the “perfect” route is because we are SCARED of FAILURE.
It’s better to start now, because you will face failure anyways.
If we don’t face failure or rejection, then we won’t be able to LEARN anything from it and if we don’t learn anything, then we wont be able to GROW and become the future person we want to be. We will never learn how to become successful in life if we don’t meet FAILURE.
WE DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT TO GET WHAT WE WANT IN LIFE.
Being Perfect is a LIE & an ILLUSION.

@2:48
If you’re not pursuing your goal, you’re committing SPIRITUAL SUICIDE.