“LET’S ATTEMPT TO DISECT ONE OF THE TOP QUESTIONS IN HISTORY AND PHILOSOPHY. WHAT IS LOVE? Unfortunately, our culture has been diluted with lies. “Love is for losers. Love is for wussies. Who needs love?” Well everybody does, even if they don’t admit it or realize it. We are nothing without the love of our significant other, parents, friends, or God. Let’s look at the result of these lies: True love is now hard to find. So what is love? God is Love. Let’s look at what Love himself has to say about this. Start with the famous Corinthians 13:4. And then continue on below.
Love is dying for the other person. “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8) Humiliating yourself for the other person. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” (Philippians 2:3-4) Putting your name on the line for the other person. Willing to get rejected for that other person. “Jesus said unto them, Verily I say unto you, a prophet is with honor, except in his own country, and among his own kin, and in his own house. No prophet is acceptable in his own country.” (Matthew 13:57) Jesus, The Prophet Himself, was rejected in His hometown of Nazareth. “And he said, Verily I say unto you, No prophet is accepted in his own country.” Luke 4:24 Taking that other person’s sins/burdens and carrying it (cross) for the sake of that person “He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.” (1 Peter 2:24) BUT REMEMBER, IT TAKES AT LEAST 2 PEOPLE FOR LOVE TO FUNCTION PROPERLY. The other person being loved must accept that love (through our God given free will, Proverbs 16:9) by his or her own choice, or else it becomes something else. Unfortunately, what I see these days is actually not love. Rather, I see manipulation/deception, and ultimately slavery. This is not love, but a disgusting imitation thereof. “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9) The person being loved must ask for forgiveness. “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32) In order for love to work properly, the person being loved must have faith/trust. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5) Therefore, since we have been justified by FAITH, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. (Romans 5:1) No guilt is necessary (Romans 8:1) for that is not the point, but do eagerly welcome correction (Proverbs 12:1) For the sake of not the other person bringing the correction, but for the sake of the RELATIONSHIP. Once the mistake has been corrected, the previous sin will be erased, like it never happened. And then the fun starts. Henceforth, you must continue necessary communication, and necessary honesty in order to keep that love going in the right way. THE STANDARD THAT JESUS SET WAS: CARRY YOUR OWN CROSS. DIE FOR ME BECAUSE I DIED FOR YOU. Matthew 16:24. BUT… You don’t have to die for that person, but how about a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a thank you, or attempt at a conversation? Let’s really love each other guys. If the standard is too much, at least TRY, and trust me it will be appreciated by the ones who died for you. That’s all some of us can ask for…”-Patrick DeJesus Jan 13, 2014:
What Pat says is true.
However, Pat is forgetting one key element. “Who” has the authority to give that correction?
That’s why we have to identify the differences between a mentor and an accountability partner and a friend to a stranger.
Mentors & Accountability Partners have the valid right to give correction, because they have been disciplined through submission to authority. Trained to know how to deliver correct rebukement.